“Establishing strong Biblical boundaries is one of the hardest, yet most important
things for a betrayed wife to do. Really, it’s one of the hardest, yet most important
thing for any Believer to do. Unfortunately, it’s a task that leaves most of us
wondering where and how to even start. Many of us have spent our lives believing
unconditional love looks different than the Bible actually describes it. We
mistakenly think setting boundaries is mean, or unloving, or gasp, un-submissive.”
Excerpt from the “Biblical Boundaries Workbook” by Esther Hosea. ❤
BIBLICAL BOUDARIES BOOK REVIEW AND GIVEAWAY
I would love to introduce you to my beautiful friend, Cherith Peters, the founder of “His Dearly Loved Daughter” Ministries.
Cherith began writing on her Blog in 2017 under her pen name, Esther Hosea, shortly after the painful discovery of her husband’s intimate betrayal.
She has dedicated the past few years of her life to joining God in His work of pushing back the darkness where marriage and sexual purity are concerned.
If you were to sit down and have a heart to heart with Cherith, she would tell you her greatest motivator to begin this ministry was not the ministry itself.
For her, it was all about being obedient to God. In fact, she would never in a million years have chosen this as her ministry.
A MINISTRY BIRTHED IN PAIN
Despite devastating pain, Cherith bravely cooperated with the Lord to establish healthy boundaries in her marriage.
When she surrendered her brokenness to God, she untied His hands to begin doing a brand new thing in her life. Therefore, a true “Beauty from Ashes” story began to transpire as only He can write it.
God is using Cherith’s obedience to bring healing into the lives of thousands of people who have experienced the trauma of betrayal in their marriages. As she co-labors with God, she is witnessing Him move mountains in her own life.
My dear friend is experiencing God’s sweet redemption rising up from out of her greatest sorrows. His healing joy is beginning to take root within her heart as she watches Him restore the brokenness in other people’s lives as only He knows how.
For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun!
Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness.
I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.
Isaiah 43:19 NLT
MY OWN BROKEN DOWN WALLS
There have been people I loved who were severely toxic, as I’m sure you have had the same thing in your life, too.
I let them remain on my side of the fence for years, despite their destructive behavior, in hopes they would one day see the light.
My inability to rise up and know my self worth kept me from realizing healthy boundaries were necessary to move forward in life. I was so desperate for certain people to love me that I became fearful of disappointing them even more than they already were.
Whether we realize it or not, we really do train people in how they can treat us, don’t we? With that in mind, we can cooperate with God to establish solid boundaries that will discourage unhealthy relationships in our lives.
Although we cannot control other people and their actions, we can make the decision to take back the responsibility for our own life and place it in God’s hands.
THE “BIBLICAL BOUNDARIES” WORKBOOK
This is a well written book. Beautifully saturated in Scripture with every turn of the page, with room to write your thoughts for self reflection. Cherith drops alot of additional Scripture Verse addresses for the reader to go deeper on their own.
You will be introduced to ten principles of healthy boundaries found in God’s Word. Furthermore, you will find practical tips to begin establishing them.
The Lord convicted me left and right on almost every single page!
One of many quotes that stood out to me:
“Biblical boundaries will draw out the true heart of others, ultimately expediting a resolution – one way or the other.”
I am beginning to understand the meaning of unconditional love and I am learning to allow people to take responsibility for their own behavior, feelings and frustrations. This is where I can begin to ‘see’ their true hearts be revealed, one way or the other.
Reading this book helped me to realize I am literally standing in God’s way when I choose not to build healthy borders around myself.
WE HAVE EXTREME WORTH IN HIS EYES
God created us to be in relationship with Him as His dearly beloved daughters.
We have incredible worth in His eyes. In fact, my Heavenly Daddy has whispered so many times into my soul: “You are mine, Donna. I have called you by name.”
I’m beginning to get a deeper revelation of how much Jesus loves me as the years go by. But still, I don’t think I will ever be able to fully grasp the depth of His extravagant love.
As Born Again Believers, we belong to Almighty GOD.
We are not public property, to be pillaged by angry, unrepentant people like a city with all its walls down. How people choose to behave is their choice. But when they choose to sin against us, then they have made the decision to remove themselves from our lives.
Healthy boundaries stem from an understanding of who we are and a refusal to be defined as anything less. Biblical Boundaries by Esther Hosea Share on XBOOK GIVEAWAY
This book will guide you to really think about where you may have fallen short in establishing healthy borders in your own life thus enabling you to begin the rebuilding process!
I would like to take this opportunity to gift this book to someone.
Comment below with where you are in your journey to establishing healthy borders in your life and you will be entered into our drawing.
One random reader will be selected on February 7th 2019 and they will receive a copy of this book. We will send an email to notify the winner.
NOTE: Winner must reside in the United States. We will arrange for a copy of this book to be delivered directly to the winner from Amazon.
Blessings to you,
P.S. Connect with Esther Hosea on Social Media
Blog ::: hisdearlyloveddaughter.com
Instagram ::: hisdearlyloveddaughter
Twitter ::: @hisdldaughter
O LORD, if You heal me, I will be truly healed;
if You save me, I will be truly saved.
My praises are for You alone!
Jeremiah 17:14 NLT
Esther Hosea’s Bio:
Cherith Peters is crazy in love with her Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
Her identity was rooted for so long in her role as wife (almost 19 years) and mom to three amazing teens. Then she discovered in late 2016 that her husband had a serious sexual addiction and was repeatedly unfaithful throughout their marriage.
This nearly ruined her but God showed up big in the middle of that dark time and pursued her with reckless abandon.
The Lord revealed to Cherith time and again that no matter what happened, her identity was in Him.
She is defined only by Him, and she is His dearly loved Daughter. God’s amazing redemptive power has become so evident in the past two years.
No matter how broken we are, God can make us new! He is remaking Cherith into His whole and healthy Daughter and her husband into a man after His own heart.
He’s remaking their marriage into a beautiful, grace-filled testimony of His wonderful love! But above all, He’s building a ministry to reach thousands of men and women who need to experience His healing power in the same way.
If you’ve suffered the trauma of intimate betrayal, I encourage you to hop over to Cherith’s website, https://hisdearlyloveddaughter.com to find encouragement and support.
Please know, you don’t have to do this alone!
Are you ready to receive Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior?
Please CLICK HERE and we will be honored to pray with you.
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This actually seems like a good book to read for even myself! I don’t know anything of healthy boundaries according to the Bible! This would be eye opening for sure. Thanks for this post!
A name was randomly drawn this evening and the recipient of Cherith’s new book is ::: Bonnie Lyn Smith!! Bonnie, please email me your contact info and your book will be on its way to you! ❤
I love this! It’s so important to know these things otherwise people will use your faith against you in a very unhealthy way. Not all healing looks the same for relationships. Sometimes, you can reconcile. Other times, you have to love them from afar or altogether away from you. God is good to help direct us. This is so needed!
Thank you so much Nina!! You are always so supportive! ❤ Sending hugs your way …
Boundaries are crazy hard to enforce for me because I feel like I’m being mean. But in reality, I’m only hurting myself and enabling toxic behavior. Thank you for these beautiful truths!
Thank you so much, Becky! I completely understand. That has been me for most of my life, feeling mean if I wasn’t carrying everyone and taking responsibility for all their feelings. Which is so defeating and exhausting. God is changing me for the good in this area. ❤
I am an lmft therapist and still find that my boundaries are being challenged. I know if I had stronger boundaries I would be a better mother, therapist, friend, and I would be so happy. I would love to win the book.
Nicole, your name will definitely be put into the hat. 😊 Thank you for taking the time to stop by and read/comment on my post. Many blessings to you …
Boundaries are so important! And really, we shouldn’t take the necessity of them for granted. They protect our families, marriages and ourselves. Recently, my husband has grown to understand the importance of boundaries in our marriage and family. It’s been helpful and I look forward to seeing how God will continue to work through them.
Angel, I agree. ❤ This book opened my eyes to the fact that not only are boundaries necessary, but I am literally standing in God’s way when I refuse to set them. Very convicting to me …
This sounds like such a wonderfully necessary book! It can be so difficult to navigate toxic relationships. It’s so great to have a godly perspective.
Yes, this book has been amazing and very helpful. ❤ I understand now how I need to let other people be responsible for their own behavior. Thank you Erin …
I am learning how to tell myself ‘no’ to certain tasks that can wait for another day and that time with my family is more important. If Ido not tell myself this, its easy for me to overstep my boundaries.
Me too Stephanie! I am going to be very intentional about keeping my priorities straight (the best that I can) in 2019. ❤
Biblical boundaries are something I love to read and practice. But first and foremost, I love seeing your beautiful face Cherith a.k.a Esther. Always have been inspired by your blog posts.
Thank you so much Diana. Cherith is very beautiful … inside and out! Very supportive of those around her … ❤
Boundaries are so important – I am learning that more and more. Especially since getting married I learned to put my marriage first and sometimes that meant putting boundaries in place with other people to shield our time together.
I so agree, Britta! My hubby and I definitely strive to make our time together a priority, too. So important! ❤
It took me a long time to realize that sometimes people refuse to change and you just have to let them go – even if it hurts. I’ve just now been working on healthy “biblical” boundaries the last couple of years my life. It took me way too long to realize that I am worth more.
Great post-the book seems awesome ! Thank you for sharing!
SO glad you are realizing you are worth so much more!! ❤ Be blessed today and thank you so much for stopping by, Emily!
Biblical boundaries lead us to freedom in Christ. It can take some time to wrap our flesh minds around this, yet it is so true. I’m glad to see how God’s work in Cherith’s life has led her to help others experience this freedom in Christ. (Canadian so don’t enter me in the draw. :))_
So true! Thank you so much Lynn! Blessings to you today … ❤
I was scrolling through Pinterest when this pin popped up. I am desperately digging to get closer to God. I also have anxiety so I have the people pleasing and keep everyone in my circle because they might need me. I am learning how to let those people out of my circle today and that feels great. I have been a Christian for quite some time yet always falling short in many areas. I’m super excited to read and work this book as it will show me how to not only have but to keep healthy boundaries.
Cierra, so glad you stopped by this evening. I know what you mean about desperately digging in to get closer to God. The more I’m in His Word and presence, the more I’m understanding how accepted I am in Christ. Praying for your relationship with Him will strengthen and you will find rest and freedom in Him. Bless you sweet sister … ❤
Wow. This is a much-needed ministry in the Body of Christ. I applaud Cherith for her willingness to step forward in sharing her story and the Truth of God’s Word. I know that ministry like this can only come from the pain of deep sorrow and suffering. Praise God for His redeeming power, matchless grace, and unconditional love!
Yes, I was so thinking that also as I wrote this. ❤ God is blessing her for being so sweetly obedient in the midst of her pain. God is bringing a harvest to the seeds she is sowing in tears …
What a great testimony, thank you for sharing and encouraging all of us 💗
Thank you for reading and responding. Esther’s ministry encourages me, too! ❤
Wow! I will be adding this to my list of “must reads”! Sharing over at Fruitful Vine Woman!
I haven’t put it away on my bookshelf now that I’m done reading it lol … It’s one of those books I need to read over and over again and each time I know the Holy Spirit will point out something new to me! Thank you so so much for sharing … ❤
His is such an important thing to have guidance on and so many don’t know where to start when this happens to themselves or someone they know.
Very true! Thank you so much for stopping by today and reading my post. Means so much to me! ❤
I personally set boundaries in my time by saying no to everything unless God pro-actively commands me to do it. Otherwise my life is too crowded.
I am inspired by your stories, Susan. God is using you to reach so many! ❤
Cherith’s story is such a powerful testimony to God’s goodness and love. Creating healthy boundaries is so important to leading meaningful lives too. Thank you for sharing this!
Yes, really great testimony! I am inspired by her courage. God is so good to us! ❤
Such a loving tribute and great review! I love how God moves through even the worst circumstances I bet this study is as packed with wisdom as Cherith’s Blog.
I love when He does, too. And, yes it sure is. ❤❤
Oh Donna, what a wonderful and encouraging review! Thank-you so much. God’s presence was so palpable as I was writing this, and I am so thankful that He has used it to help others. All glory to Him!
I could feel the Holy Spirit as I read and absorbed so much truth about building healthy boundaries. Things I had never thought about before but make so much sense now. Thank you so much for your obedience to let God speak through you! ❤
Why is it so hard for us to create healthy boundaries?? Thank you for this resource, it is much needed in our time and age.
You’re so welcome Jodie! This book helps address some of the underlying beliefs we may have held when we chose to not set needed boundaries. A big one for me was thinking I was not being a loving person if I set limits on the behavior of others. I love how Esther exposes the lies from the enemy so we can begin to rebuild our lives the way God intended. God is so good! ❤
Boundaries have a been a huge point of growth for me over two decades…both in terms of unhealthy family-of-origin relationships that needed borders and also now raising teenagers with anxiety and depression struggles. So excited about Esther’s book! Blessings to you all!
God has been working with me also where boundaries are concerned. It wasn’t an easy thing to do when I didn’t understand the love behind it. Blessings to you also Bonnie … ❤
I’m learning to say no and set boundaries for our family time. Sometimes other things need to wait or I do not need to be involved in at all, because we need to spend quality time together as a family. I am getting better at this focus.
Praying for you right now Beverly! Blessings to you and your family … ❤